In the track of love, you are giving more than you are taking. And of course, you love yourself so much that you don't allow selfish people to take advantage of you. You are not going for revenge, but you are clear in your communication. You can say "I don't like it when you try to take advantage of me, when you disrespect me, when you are unkind to me. I don't need someone to abuse me verbally, emotionally, physically. I don't need to hear you cursing all the time. It's not that I am better than you; it's because I love beauty. I love to laugh; i love to have fun; I love to love. It's not that i'm selfish, I just don't need a big victim near me. It doesn't mean i don't love you, but i cannot take responsibility for your dream. If you are in a relationship with me, it will be so hard for your Parasite, because i will not react to your garbage at all." This is not selfishness; this is self love. Selfishness, control, and fear will break almost any relationship. Generosity, freedom, and love will create the most beautiful relationship: an ongoing romance.